Types of Handshakes and What They Reveal About You

What a Handshake Can Say Without Words

Most likely, you haven’t thought much about how you shake hands. But this simple, everyday action can say more than words. Most of the time, it’s your first impression, and it could be your last. When you shake hands with someone, it can show a lot about who you are, how confident you are, what you want to do, and even how socially aware you are.

Handshakes are more than just good manners in a world where relationships are more important than ever. It’s a kind of body language that can instantly make or break friendship. You may have been unsure about how to shake someone’s hand or thought why some feel awkward while others feel just right. This blog will help you understand the hidden meanings in every grip and gesture.

The Confident Grip

This is how people remember shaking hands. The confident grip shows confidence and leadership by being firm but not crushing and steady but not aggressive. Being in the present, being happy with who you are, and being ready for work are all signs of this. CEOs, professionals, and people who know how to run a place often shake hands with confidence. Time your grip with warm smile and direct eye contact if you want to get good at it.

The Dead Fish

This handshake is usually awkward for the other person because it is loose, cold, and weak. It shows that you don’t care, have energy, or believe in yourself. Some people say this because they are worried or because it’s what they’ve always done, but others send the wrong message without meaning to. When the stakes are high, a dull handshake could make you look bored or even unreliable. If this sounds like you, work on your grip pressure with a soft ball or mirror drills to feel more comfortable around other people.

The Bone Crusher

This is not the same as the dead fish, and it can really hurt. A handshake that is too tight can come off as bossy or hostile, especially if it is paired with long eye contact or a stiff stance. People who do this handshake might not even know it’s too much, but other people often feel challenged or uncomfortable when they receive it. Remember that being strong doesn’t mean being violent. Keep the power in check and try to find balance.

The Two-Handed Shake

This handshake, which is also called the “politician’s handshake,” is done by touching the other person’s arm or putting your free hand around theirs. If the situation calls for it, it can seem real or planned. It makes you think of care and love, but if you’re not close with the person, it can feel too personal. Politicians and public speakers use this a lot to seem like they have something in common with the person, but it works best when you already trust them.

The Quick Grasp-and-Release

This quick touch-and-go handshake is common when someone is pressed for time or feels uneasy. It shows impatience or lack of interest. This could come across as rude or dismissive in a professional setting. In less formal situations, though, it might not mean as much. It’s important to fit in with your surroundings. If you shake hands quickly because you’re nervous, taking your time and focusing on the person can make a huge difference right away.

The Long Hold

It can feel strange or too much to hold on for too long, even after the first shake is over. There is less of a line between connection and pain. Some cultures like longer physical touch, but when you’re at work, it’s best to keep handshakes short, like two to three seconds. Even if you mean well, if you tend to hold on longer than that, you might make other people feel uncomfortable without meaning to.

The Palm-Down Shake

A palm-down handshake is a subtle way to show that you are in charge. It can feel like a power move when this kind of shake is done to one side only. It might work in some dominant settings, but be careful when you use it. A more neutral handshake, where the fingers meet in the middle, shows openness and equality, so it works better for most situations.

The Palm-Up Shake

This shake of the hand shows submission or a lack of pride. When someone wants to show respect or let the other person take charge, they may offer it on purpose. This can show that you are sincere, but putting your hand up too often could be seen as a sign of nervousness or not being present. Being aware of this small cue can help you make sure that your handshake fits with your goals.

The Finger-Only Handshake

In this awkward grip, only the fingers are spread out instead of the whole hand. It causes distance, both physically and emotionally, and is often seen at formal events or when someone doesn’t know how to shake hands. It’s not interesting and could mean worry or doubt. To fix this, hold your other hand halfway and line up your palm. Do this with calm trust.

The Handshake-Hug Combo

When you shake hands, you’ll get a side hug or shoulder pat. It’s often used in social or emotional settings to show warmth, familiarity, or family. But if you’re at work, this could be seen as unprofessional unless you already know each other personally. If you’re not sure if this is right, start with a normal handshake and make changes based on how they react.

It’s also important where you stand.

It’s not just hands that shake hands. How that moment is felt depends on how you stand, look, and even smile. You give off more energy when you stand up straight, smile calmly, and make short eye contact. You can feel nervous energy right away. This can also boost confidence. Body language, purpose, and presence all work together in a good handshake.

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A New Way to Shake Hands in 2026

People today are more aware of good hygiene, so they use different ways to greet each other, like hand bumps or nods. But when you’re at work, shaking hands is still a common way to connect with someone. Many face-to-face interactions have been replaced by internet meetings, but a handshake is still powerful when the chance comes up. Something small but important makes a big difference.

Watching how other people act and practicing in low-stakes situations can help you improve your social and business presence. To improve your body language, you can also use teaching sites like Skillshare or watch videos on YouTube about proper business behavior. Amazon’s personal care collection has tools for grooming that help you look your best for that all-important handshake.

Frequently asked questions

Does shaking hands really change how people feel about you?

Yes, research has shown that handshakes have a big effect on how trustworthy or knowledgeable someone seems. A good handshake can quickly make you feel more confident and connected.

How long should you shake hands for?

Eye contact and a calm face should be part of a professional greeting that lasts about two to three seconds. Things that are too short or too long can feel bad.

What if shaking hands makes me nervous?

Working at it helps. You could play a part with a friend or in front of a screen. It can also help to ground yourself and focus on the other person instead of your worries.

Should people still shake hands in 2026?

Yes, fist bumps and bows are other ways to greet someone, but handshakes are still preferred in many social and professional situations. They are still a common way to say hello or close a deal.

How can I keep from shaking hands with a “dead fish”?

Keep your hand dry, press down gently but clearly, and stay in the present moment. Flipkart has hand wipes and grooming items that can help you stay clean and feel good about your appearance.

Do you mind if I shake your hand twice?

On a personal level, yes. The two-handed shake shouldn’t be used too often in business settings. If the relationship doesn’t allow it, it can feel too close.

How can I shake your hand better?

Watch movies on manners, practice with friends, and pay attention to how you move. Free lessons on communication and “soft skills,” such as body language training, can be found on sites like Coursera.